Lessons to keep you happier and safer in love and life
Don't trust others based upon your own ethics - assume the worst until proven wrong.
If you are unethical then you will never trust anyone anyhow so just stop it now if you want to be happy.
Consider the ethical and legal implications before getting married because it is an open-ended legal contract and locks you into a relationship, instead of respecting your freedom to love without pressure. Relationships without non-negotiable legal and behavioural expectations are more sustainable and engender real trust by welcoming honesty and transparency instead of shutting-down important conversations.
Never voluntarily engage with NHS Mental Health Services and, if you are unfortunate enough to have them contact you because someone has bad intentions, Do not act in a way that might give them the false impression you are unwell, when you are not. NHS Mental Health Services are primarily there to drug people, not to discover how they are or to help and care.
Never assume that the policing and legal systems will apply the law properly or deliver justice for you.
If you are unfortunate enough to have dark skin and/or a foreign name then assume even worse in all of the above situations.
My ground-breaking set of principles for maintaining sustainable relationships